Q. Dear Dating Advice Girl,
Here's the deal. So I met this guy like 2 months ago...thru
a mutual friend. After talking for about a month, he finally asked me out...and
I agreed to have dinner with him. The place he picked was really nice, and dinner
went really well. After that, we went to a movie. He dropped me off, hugged me,
and said goodbye (that was Friday night). I didn't hear from him until Tuesday
rolled around, so thought I send him a text and he responded right away. We
ended up talking on the phone for a bit.
Since both of us had been busy, the soonest we could go out on a 2nd date was like 3 weeks after our first date. But this time, I actually drove out to see him instead. I guess I should of asked for a raincheck because I wasn't feeling well. I don’t think I was that much fun because I really wasn't feeling it. I’m not sure if he thought I just wasn't interested since I didn't seem to respond that well. I just had a feeling that it didn't go well, but I don't think he knew why and I haven't heard from him since. :( So I’m not sure if he's still interested. The other thing is that I’m not sure how interested I am in this guy. I would still like to stay in touch, but I just don't know if I should contact him.
I’d love to hear your insights! :) Help! xoxo
A. Dear Single Girl!
So here's my take. It sounds like you're both lukewarm about each other. In other words, you enjoy each other's company when you have time to hang but it's neither one of you are dying to hang with each other. It sounds like you already have it set up where you guys are cool and could hang periodically, which is perfect. To be clear, if either of you were seriously interested, you'd be hanging out way more often (even if its just for coffee for an hour on your lunch break). Also, I wouldn't make it a habit to drive down to see him. I'm not a stickler for ‘the rules’, but I do definitely think the guy should make more of the effort early on in a relationship. The bottom line is that you should keep your options open and keep your eyes open for other available men. If you do invite him to do something, keep it low pressure, like coffee or a drink during happy hour. Let him do the asking for formal dates like dinner. Above all, just don't over-think it. He's not 'the one' but you can still enjoy each other's company in the meantime!
-The Dating Advice Girl :)